This thing your brother said about escapism, I reckon it's the reason why most men and boys prefer action movies because all fingers are not equal especially for the male gender. It can be a tough life.

And some jokes, like someone already mentioned is just a thin wall covering the whole situation.

And I also feel people are different and while some can handle emotional displays, others would rather escape.

It is a nice thing that you remembered his words and shared it with us. Thank you